Grief Counseling Through Memory Books & the Creative Arts

By Laurie Holland

After my first trip to Zambia in 2006, I observed a great number of orphaned children grieving the loss of loved ones who had died from HIV/AIDS. Upon my return to San Jose State University, I devoted my graduate thesis research to “grief intervention for AIDS-orphaned children in Africa”. When I returned to Zambia in the summer of 2007, I had the inspiring opportunity to implement many of the creative arts activities from this research with two groups of young Zambian girls ages nine to fourteen.

Laurie with the girls in the grief workshop
Laurie with the girls in the grief workshop.

Memory Books & Psychodrama

I found memory books to be by far the greatest tool in assisting the girls to process their pain and loss. A memory book is a book dedicated to a loved one that provides the space for the surviving relative or friend to relive many happy memories about that person. The girls were encouraged to write about as many memories as they could remember about an important person in their life who died. This was most often an immediate family member.

She feels happy when her mother hugs her.
She feels happy when her mother hugs her.

It was important to respect the needs of those who didn’t feel comfortable sharing very much, as oftentimes evoking such memories can create discomfort. Imagine not just one parent dying, but both; not just both parents dead but an uncle, cousin, and brother or sister, too. It was a great privilege to offer the girls the space to feel safe and encourage them to feel - to feel sadness, to feel the pain, to feel the loss – and to encourage them to know that it is okay to feel these emotions that are often labeled “bad” or that feel uncomfortable.

After completing their memory books, the girls moved on to an activity known as psychodrama, which is mostly used as a group work method in which each person in the group can become a therapeutic agent for each other in the group. The girls took an active role and acted out their “regrets” for one another. One girl wished she would have told her mother that she loved her before she died. So she chose a girl to play the part of her mother and another to play the part of her grandma. They ended the drama with the girl telling her mother that she loved her before her mother died. They did such a great job!

Finger Puppets, Finger Paints, Stuffed Animals, Drawings, and Sock Puppets

The girls participated in a number of projects that, like the memory books and psychodrama, helped to facilitate the identification of their emotions. The girls utilized finger puppets, finger-paints, some stuffed animals, sock puppets and drawings to express what it feels like to be sad, scared, and happy.

Girls finger-painted “People in My World.”
Girls finger-painted “People in My World.”
In one activity the girls were requested to draw a picture of a tree with each part of the tree representing the following: roots to identify the tribe(s) they are from; a tree trunk labeled with the people or things that have helped them become better people (i.e. parents, or school); branches for positive attributes about themselves; fruit symbolizing their accomplishments; insects representing problems or challenges they were facing; and fallen leaves identifying people in their lives who have died.

The tree trunk represents people/things that influence them in a positive way
The tree trunk represents people/things that influence them in a positive way.

The leaves represent people who have died.
The leaves represent people who have died.

The girls were anxious to show me their drawings and receive praise from me. They openly shared the loss of their family members. Additionally, they drew pictures of a person they consider to be their hero. It was no surprise that two girls drew a picture of Angela Malik, the Director of Kondwa, who always has the best interest of the children in mind. They also drew how they deal with a wide range of emotions (sad, lonely, excited, depressed, happy, angry, etc.). We ended the session with the girls making their own sock puppets. These puppets were used to allow the girls to project their various emotions onto the puppets and learn appropriate ways to deal with those emotions; for instance, what to do when you are angry.

Each girl made a sock puppet to assist in  expressing their emotions.
Each girl made a sock puppet to assist in expressing their emotions.

Saying Good-Bye

The last day together with the girls was a difficult one. I shed a few tears that morning knowing that it would be the last day of the workshop with them. The girls had all made cards and drawings for me. “Teacher Laurie,” one girl wrote, “I love you, teacher. I love my mother, and my mother is dead. I now love you as my mother.” Gasp!! Another girl drew a picture of me and titled it “My Second Hero”.

Another girl stated in a note to me (word for word), “don’t you know that it’s easy to buy anything in the shop but it’s not easy to buy people like you. You are so difficult to find. So I am asking if you can continue with your kind heart.” I gave out many hugs that day and told each girl individually at least once or twice that I love them. I asked each girl to write down their prayer requests so that I can pray for their specific needs until we meet again.

One young 9-year-old who lost both parents and now resides with her grandma wrote, “Please pray to send someone to love me when my grandmother dies.” Please keep these young precious girls in your hearts and thoughts, as well as all of the beloved children at Kondwa!

The  girls each made cards for Laurie on the last day.
The girls each made cards for Laurie on the last day.

Laurie and the girls on the last day of the  workshop.
Laurie and the girls on the last day of the workshop.

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Autism and Special Needs in Africa - Little Assisi School

By Adam Hardin

Little Girl at Assisi School

On a dusty mid-July day, three plumbers who have placed a water valve in the wrong location are dealing with one very determined nun. Sister Helen Scully is the director of the Little Assisi, a school for children with special needs, in N’gombe compound in Lusaka Zambia.

Today, for the first time, Assisi has running water, but the plumbers have mistaken placed the valve directly in the front yard where the children play.  They are reluctant to move it, and for that they are being sternly re-directed.

The Assisi school serves 26 children who exhibit characteristics of mental retardation, autism, and various other disorders that impede their learning in more traditional educational settings. Sister Helen and her staff spend their days feeding and educating these children who would otherwise have no place else to go.

 Sister Helen at the School
Sister Helen Scully outside Little Assisi School.

I visited Little Assisi in July 2007 along with Kathy Allen, a school psychologist, and Phoebe Goodwin, a teacher.  Sister Helen introduced us to the children and her assistants.  We discussed possible diagnoses of some of the children, and asked them about the resources and training they need.

Sister Helen and her staff often rely on their wits and energy to take the place of the supplies and resources that should be available to these children. Rocks and old tires are used for exercise while homemade flash cards are used to teach numbers and letters. In addition, while the Assisi staff is energetic and eager to learn, they haven’t received any formalized training.

 Assisi Kids
Violet (middle), a hearing impaired student at Assisi, and three of her friends.

During the past year, KCF has begun to provide financial support and gifts to Little Assisi through the Holiday angel project and is currently working on plans to provide teacher training in the summer of 2009. Specialists in Autism and Mental Retardation can provide specialized training on structured teaching, the use of visuals, and other techniques. By providing educational training and funding to the staff of the school, Sister Helen and the teachers will be able to provide the children with training and the prospect for a better future.

By the way, the water valve was moved, the children played, and the educational works and dreams of Sister Helen and her staff continue to flow.

~ Article author Adam Hardin is a behavior specialist in Kentucky working with children and adults with Mental Retardation.     

   

    

    

     

 

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The KCF Welcomes Three New Board Members

The Kondwa Children’s Foundation is excited to welcome three energetic new Board Members.  All the new members have visited Zambia as part of the 2007 Volunteer Trip and have experience that will greatly benefit Kondwa’s mission. 

Laurie Holland

Laurie HollandLaurie has done cross-cultural service and volunteer work in both Kenya and Zambia, Africa. She received her bachelor’s degree in Cross-Cultural Studies from Northwestern College in St. Paul, Minnesota and her master’s degree in Counselor Education from San Jose State University in San Jose, California.

She has also been honored by the San Jose Rotary Club with an Ambassadorial Scholarship to participate in a Group Study Exchange program in Argentina in March 2007 and a 6-month Cultural Ambassadorial Rotary Scholarship to live in Mexico and study Spanish.

Adam Hardin

Adam HardinAdam is a behavior specialist who works for the Hamilton County Board of Mental Retardation/Developmental Disabilities. His job involves working with children and adults with Mental Retardation who also have behavior problems. 

He went on the trip in summer of 2007 and helped to provide educational assessments to the children at Kondwa Day Center and area schools. In his free time, he serves in the Navy Reserves, coaches basketball, and watches way to much Law and Order. He lives in Southgate, Kentucky.
Phoebe Goodwin

Phoebe GoodwinPhoebe is a teacher and has been working with middle school children. She just started a new job at a high school in South Tucson where she is teaching chemistry and geometry and loving it. 

Phoebe attended the KCF Volunteer Trip 2007 and helped to lead a very beneficial teacher training workshop. She will be working with future trips and teacher trainings.

Phoebe lives in Tucson, AZ and is from the east coast.

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School Raises over $1000 for Angel Project

Our Kondwa Fundraising Experience 
Submitted by the Huron Centennial School

Fundraisers at Huron Centennial Public School - Cananda

Our school raised money for the Kondwa Children’s Foundation and we found it to be a very successful experience. It felt good to raise so much money for such a good cause.

Our school, Huron Centennial Public raised a grand total of $1000.92 which reached well above our goal! We had hoped to raise $500 but our school was so willing to give generous donations that we raised twice our goal.

With the information that we had on the Kondwa Foundation, we explained to our students how to “be an angel” at Christmas. Our school was so happy to know that we were helping these children with school and supplies that were so desperately needed.

We would like to continue our involvement with the Kondwa Foundation in the future and help those who are less fortunate.

Sincerely,
Ben, Shannen, Lydia, Magnus, Sydney

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2007 Angel Project Update!

Pre-primary class6-9 years old with Angel Clothes.

In late February, the children at the Kondwa Day Center for Orphans and Vulnerable Children celebrated the beginning of the new school year by opening Holiday Angel gifts! The little boys in the Baby Class received matching sweaters in blue, gray, and white, while the girls received lavender dresses with embroidered flowers.  Their teacher, Mr. Pritchard, passed out gifts of clothing, toothbrushes, school supplies, toys, and candy to the 25 happy three to five year olds in his class. 
 
All 90 children currently attending the Kondwa Day Center received gifts, from the baby class of 3-5 year olds to the Pre-primary school class of 7-9 year olds.  In addition, the four teachers and six staff members of the Kondwa Day Center were sent gifts of clothing and toiletries.  Thanks to the dedicated leadership of the school director Angela Malik, this school offers the hope of a bright future for these children, and KCF is passionate about assisting Mrs. Malik in her mission.
 
This year, we were delighted to also give gifts to the 25 children attending the Assisi School for Children with Disabilities, led by Sister Helen Scully.  Some of the children are deaf, some are mentally retarded, but all benefit from the love and care provided to them at Assisi!  We are proud to be partnering with Sister Helen to help these children.
 
Baby Class 3-5 years old wearing Angel Project Sweaters.

Thanks to your generosity, more than 115 children received gifts this year as part of KCF’s Holiday Angel Gift Project!  More than 50 individual donors from across the United States and Canada, banded together to share gifts of holiday spirit with children in Zambia. 
 
Thanks to Laureen Ayers and her students at Huron Centennial School in Canada who raised more than $1,000 to support the Angel Project.  Thanks also to the folks in Cincinnati for the Holiday Angel fundraiser which raised more than $200! 
 
Each donation included a $10 gift toward the construction costs of the new primary school for the graduates of the Kondwa Day Center, and totaled $1,230.  These funds will be put directly to use this spring to build the first classrooms for the new school.
 
Thanks to all of you for a successful 2007 Holiday Angel Gift Project! In 2008, with your help, we will reach 150 children!
 
Please email angels@kondwa.org for more information.

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Smart Web Searches Help the KCF

 

 GoodSearch: You Search...We Give!

What if the Kondwa Children’s Foundation earned a penny every time you searched the Internet? Or how about if a percentage of every purchase you made online went to support our mission? Well, now it can!

GoodSearch.com is a new Yahoo-powered search engine that donates half its advertising revenue, about a penny per search, to the charities its users designate. Use it just as you would any search engine, get quality search results from Yahoo, and watch the donations add up!

GoodShop.com is a new online shopping mall which donates up to 37 percent of each purchase to your favorite cause! Hundreds of great stores including Amazon, Target, Gap, Best Buy, ebay, Macy’s and Barnes & Noble have teamed up with GoodShop and every time you place an order, you’ll be supporting your favorite cause.

Just click the banner above or this link to go to http://www.goodsearch.com/?charityid=864906 and our name should already be chosen as the charity.  If not, when you go to goodsearch.com, type “Kondwa Children’s Foundation” in the Charity Box.

Add Kondwa Chldren's Foundation to your goodsearch list.

Bookmark this page to search with and help the KCF grow! And, be sure to spread the word!

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Make GoodSearch your homepage as well as the homepage on all of the computers in your company or school.

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The KCF Helps “Empowering Widows in Development” Group

Empowering Women in Development member using knitting machine. Angela Malik, founder of the Kondwa Day Center in Zambia, was concerned for the well being of the widowed mothers whose children did not qualify for admission to the Kondwa Day Center and took it upon herself to do something about it.  She helped organize a women’s support group who meets periodically to learn and share about effective parenting skills and ideas on how to support their families needs. Together, they pursue various small business ventures like basket making, sewing, tie-dye and batik printing, and other crafts.  They share profits and losses, always reinvesting a portion into the business.

Although the immediate needs of the women are economic, they will tell you they gather for the spirit of oneness.  They acknowledge that they do get lonely and appreciate being with women who share similar burdens.  They call themselves Empowering Women in Development and their group currently numbers twenty-three.

Close up of a knitting machine in use.EWD shares a small cinder block building with the Assissi Day School for children with special needs.  They meet together on Tuesday afternoons and Saturdays to work on crafts which they sell and then share the proceeds. The merchandise available during KCF’s Summer 2007 visit included beaded necklaces and bangles, tie-dyed and batik cloth in four-meter segments, beaded net table coverings, rag rugs, and coasters in the national colors of green, red, gold and black.

The primary source of income at this time, however, comes from two portable knitting machines. They are simple structures about four feet long, sit on a table and appear to be lightweight.  One was provided through the Kondwa Children’s Foundation and the second from another donor. One of the women received training on the machine from another agency and taught a second widow how to use it.  They can each turn out five school sweaters a day.

Children wear the sweaters knitted for them

Sweaters (paid for by a donor to Kondwa Day Center) were made for all 90 Kondwa Day Center children during the Summer 2007 visit.  At that time it was winter in Zambia, which lies just south of the equator, and sweaters were definitely in season.  The sweaters included the child’s first name on the front and the words Kondwa Center on the back.  The names are there in order to identify the owner when the sweaters are tossed into a stack during recess!  EWD also makes bright maroon sweaters for children from Ngombe Basic School, the result of having a good relationship with the School Manager who refers guardians to EWD. They have also made samples of vests for government workers and are hopeful to generate orders as a result.

Angela Malik hold sweater knit by the widow's group.Sweater knitting for the Kondwa Day Center Children

When asked about their Wish List the knitters were quick to respond that they need a yarn winder and would very much like a “pass up” machine, a device that enables them to change patterns. They also take special orders, so being able to make different patterns would give them a competitive edge over the knitters in the market stalls of Lusaka The Treasurer of EWD also expressed concern about cash flow, as the women cannot buy yarns or other raw materials on credit.

The widows of EWD are enthusiastic about their future as a cooperative, and the songs of welcome we received as visitors clearly conveyed their collective strength. They say that they come from humble beginnings but have the will power to succeed.

Original Article by Linda Hansen

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Teacher Training Workshop - Summer 2007

By Kathy Allen and Phoebe Goodwin 

Teachers and administrators from twenty community schools in N’gombe  Compound participated in a teacher training workshop sponsored by the Kondwa Day Centre for Orphans during the KCF volunteer trip, Summer, 2007.  Conducted by Phoebe Goodwin, a middle school math and science teacher, and Kathleen Allen, a school psychologist, (both from Tucson, Arizona) the workshop focused on providing ideas for  classroom management; teaching methods for math, science and reading; and an understanding of different learning styles:  auditory, visual, and kinesthetic. Among the 40 participants were teachers of preschool age children up to 7th grade, and a few school administrators. Teacher trainingThe teachers were a lively bunch of learners.  They actively participated in the sessions, sometimes as a large group and at other times in small learning groups. After meeting in small groups, teachers presented their ideas to all participants, providing an opportunity for discussion and interaction between peers from different schools,  as well as building longer lasting connections.

One of the biggest hits of the training was a discovery learning activity involving straws, where teachers cut a regular soda straw into a point at one end and learned to play it like a kazoo.  It’s hard to keep a straight face when you’re buzzing away on a soda straw!  Teachers were given just two directions:  In your group, learn how to play the straw, and determine what happens if you shorten the length of the straw.  The learning goal was to show that the teacher doesn’t always have to tell students answers, but can act as a facilitator to a group discovery activity where all kinds of different things can be discovered about sound, rhythm and vibration.  

A secondary goal was to convey that experiential learning is fun and engaging.  It was a huge hit.  Teachers discovered that if you shorten the straw, the sound gets higher, but there are still some changes you can make to the sound just by using your mouth.  The lesson culminated in a “talent show” where groups of teachers came up with a song that they played on their kazoos and performed in front of the group.  There was a lot of laughing and learning going on at the same time, and teachers commented that previously they had not thought of learning as being something that’s done just for the fun of it.  

At the end of the  training, many teachers reported that the information about learning styles was quite beneficial for them, as most of them had previously taught using only a lecture format. When math, reading, or science activities were  presented, the teachers were able to identify which learning styles were being used, develop lessons which had activities using all three learning styles embedded in them, and understand how depth of understanding is enhanced when students experience new concepts visually, auditorily, and kinesthetically.Teachers play kazoo straws

Attendance was outstanding during all six days of the workshop.  It is notable that teachers attended a three-hour workshop after a full day of work, and attended a full-day workshop on a holiday.  All teachers were pleased to earn a certificate at the end of the workshop which stated their successful completion of  22 hours of teacher training.  This type of certificate is vital to Zambian teachers because they can get better-paying jobs in government schools if they can show proof of extra teacher training.  In a country where such training is scarce, the certificates were treated like gold.  The teachers serenaded Kathleen and Phoebe with amazing singing at the graduation ceremony when they received their certificates.  Both teacher trainers and teachers learned a lot from each other through this satisfying experience.

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Kachele – Gardens for a New School

Thanks to private donors, Kachele Primary School already has a home for its foundations. Below you can read an update written by one of our 1st session 2007 Summer trip volunteers. Trip participants also planted a living fence around the land perimiter.

Kachele – Gardens for a New School
July 2007

A plot of land, 1.7 hectares in size, awaits the trampling of 420 feet. Once the Kachele Primary School is built, 210 students will fill its seven grades. But while the planning for the school has started and the buildings will follow, the land itself has already been put to productive use.

As part of their school, students at Kachele will learn how to garden, so in laying out the site, space was set aside for the gardens and orchards. Already the garden plots are filled with the winter crops: Chinese cabbage, onions, rape, tomatoes, cabbage, maize, green peppers, an okra. The new trees planted, bananas, mangos, avocados, papaya, and lemons, will soon begin to bear fruit.

The process establishing the new gardens has also been important. While the Kondwa Day Centre for Orphans arranged for a tractor to roughly plow the fields and hired a caretaker, Hameja, to watch over the land; much of the garden work has been done by the orphans’ guardians and caregivers. With the assistance of Hameja, the guardians have been shoveling, hoeing, planting, weeding, watering – all hard work done under the hot African sun.Shea Van Rhoads and Angela Malik at school site 2007

When harvest time comes, the produce is gathered to provide vegetables and greens for Kondwa, and the excess, especially tomatoes, is sold in the local markets to benefit the school and the garden.

It soon will be time for spring planting in Africa, and whether it will be the new school called Kachele, or more gardens, the little plot of land in Zambia will bear fruit.

Photo: KCF Board Member Shea Van Rhoads and Kondwa Day Center Administrator Angela Malik visit the site of the future Kachele Primary School. Summer 2007.

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Our Blog is Back!

ogoThe KCF is happy to announce that our Wordpress Blog is Back! 

We look forward to providing you timely project updates, helper spotlights and usefull information!

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